I am recently divorced and back on the dating scene. So much has changed, any advice?
Yes, one still keep your standards and two be careful. Many women feel that because they are a little older, maybe a little heavier and a few more wrinkles that they are not still attractive. They think men want someone young, sexually aggressive, tight boobs, firm butt and that’s their competition. Think again, if that’s what he wants, you don’t want that man anyway. So for those back on the dating scene, here is a little advice.
There are still good men out there, the divorce rate in this country is over 50% so many did not make the right decision the first time around. What you need to do is consider yourself wiser and time more precious so make better choices. Start with a friendship and get to know the person. Make sure it’s someone you want to spend time with and that takes TIME. If you have had a bad relationship(s) in the past, leave it there. Don’t bring those hurt feelings into a new one. However if this new relationship resembles those past bad relationships in thought, word or deed, choose someone new. Ask direct questions for any concerns like married, kids or the down low??? Remember just because you are older, you are still deserving of respect, attention and consideration so still demands it.
Many women use dating sites, so it’s okay. Here you can meet a variety of people from various places that you may never have connected to, but be careful. Don’t give out personal information freely and always meet initially in a public place. Follow your instincts, they are usually right. Also don’t pay high fees to meet someone, that’s usually a rip off. Remember you can still meet interesting men at church, sports clubs, and local service organizations
Sexually transmitted diseases are REAL and many with no treatment. They can leave you mentally and physically scarred after the infected partner is long gone. Just because you don’t have a pregnancy concern, still use a condom. Older women can also have problems with vaginal dryness. There are many over the counter lubricants or your health provider can suggest a local hormonal cream.
Don’t place any relationship before your children, no matter how old they are. Just like you still think of them as children, they will always think of you as mom. Introduce your new relationship gradually, but only after you have dated a few times and feel comfortable. Don’t expect everyone to like them immediately because you do, give it time. Also if your family has concerns, at least listen to them. Sometimes they see problems you don’t.
That set aside, life is still beautiful with or without someone just because you are here.